Something We Want You To Know About Our Adoption

One thing that throws me off my game every single time it happens is how no one wants to talk to us about our decision to adopt our first child. This baffled me and, quite honestly, offended me for the first six or so months we were sharing the news. After conversations with one close friend and one old friend's mom it hit me that the reason (I think) that people clam up and act awkward and then don't continue the conversation is that they think we're adopting because we can't have children. Then that has the potential to lead to conversations about sex and reproductive systems and for as open about sex as our culture is, we're secretly really closed off about it.

The Pensyls chose to adopt our first child because we wanted to, because we could. We are blessed to have the time and finances to handle an adoption at this point in our lives. We didn't want to have biological children first and then always "What if..." ourselves about adoption.

Can we have biological children? Who the heck knows! We've never tried. We certainly plan to try once our first child is here and settled into our family. And if we can't? Who the heck cares! We'll adopt again (and again and again!)!

So please talk to us about our adoption. This is one of the most exciting moments in our lives and we want to talk to you about it. And yes, things move incredibly slow for a long period of time, so there might be months were we have no new news to share with you, but please keep asking and act interested when we tell you the same sliver of news that we told you last time. And both of us hate talking and sharing personal details of our lives so if we act awkward that's just us, so please push past it and show us that you care about us.